Deep Freedom Now

Notice how many cultures have a taboo around EXPERIENCING the texture of a whole panoply of experiences we are already EXPERIENCING. “Fear, anger, jealousy, rage,” these are the names we put on the dimensions of our experience which we so hurriedly, as if in a panic, learn to suppress (by pretending to be “spiritual” and thus “above” these low human emotions, and thus at perpetual “self-war”), repress (by stifling the feeling yet feeling profound shame & guilt for having even felt it momentarily and having to hold it at bay) or express (by generating pain and drama in the lives of those around us, especially the ones closest to us), but dare not simply FEEL, as many of us were taught not to feel these from our very first day.

Tags: Anger, Ant, Eagle, Expression, Fear, Feeling, Grief, Indigenous culture, Jealousy, Repression, Self-Alienation, Suppression, Warrior, Warriors Cry

“Dr. Stuart Shanker is a Distinguished Research Professor of Philosophy and Psychology at York University and currently serving as Director of the Milton and Ethel Harris Research Initiative (MEHRI), an initiative whose goal is to build on new knowledge of the brains development, and help set children (including those with developmental disorders) on the path towards emotional and intellectual health.”
This is a great, hour-long interview on supporting children AND adults in growing into their full neurological potential.

When we can say, “Thank you for your willingness to be with your pain and to love me” then we come to the possibility of true relationship. This is the crux of the matter right now, isn’t it? Because right now, as we ARE, in togetherness there is pain, isn’t there? We love somebody, we want to enjoy their company, offer them the best we can, and then we see all the mechanisms of this disconnective “self” get triggered and engage. We experience how profoundly we resist connection. If we are willing to be with this pain that we carry from a long ways back, that we inherit from many generations, only then can we speak of crossing the threshold of a Loving that might eventually allow us to know each other as “People,” not just some momentary senti-mentality.

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True teaching, true learning, and true unlearning is not about getting anything. It is just like true love: if you love someone because of what you “get” from them, your love is already doomed from the start. So the proper relationship to a teacher is what we can GIVE to them. And the greatest gift that we can bring to a teacher and a relationship is Emptiness. This giving is what allows us to receive beyond the dimensions of our preconceptions.

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Tags: Circle of Life, Emptiness, Indigenous Wisdom, Invitation, Japanese Zen, Learning, Realization, Roshi, Student, Teacher, True Teaching, Unlearning, Wisdom, Wise Women, Zazen, Zen

All of the crises that loom large on the front pages of the daily paper and the crises that tear our families apart, can be broken down to one thing: A Crisis of False Authority

Tags: Authority, Authorship, Brain-Heart-Mind, Crisis, Heart Authority, Heart Intelligence, Heart-Mind, Indigenous Wisdom, Neurocardiology, Panarchy

Mutual parent-child frustration results when a child is raised by parents who are out of sync with her, or their own, emotional and developmental needs.  As a result, the child is repeatedly experiencing her parents’ frustration with her.  Children strive to pursue the normal, integrative, connective relationships that its blossoming awareness and physicality push it [...]

Tags: Authenticity, Celebration, Child Development, Children, Connection, Continuum, Developmental Milestones, Ego, Eroticism, Inauthenticity, Manufactured Self, Pseudo-Self

The Human Continuum is the biological, environmental, parental, familial and social matrix that optimizes human well-being in ways that are maximally supportive to humans and the environment they inhabit, as developed over hundreds of thousands of years hand-in-hand with the emergence of our species.

Tags: Adolescence, alienation, Bali, Childhood, Connection, Endangered Minds, Human Continuum, Human Development, Indonesian, Jane Healey, mental illness, natural birth, Parenting, schooling, terrible twos, umbilical cord, Well-Being, Zapotec

Freedom is a neurology. Freedom is a state of unconditional trust in our Beingness. It is a way that the defensive & vigilant structures of the brain grow when we are welcomed at birth, into the arms & skin & breasts of our mothers and the trust of our people. They grow to warn us of true danger, rather than growing to alert us perpetually that we are a danger to ourselves, which is what happens in the West.

Tags: Freedom, Freedom For, Heart Knowing

“Freedom!” When you hear the word, what are the feelings that come up for you?  I think that for a lot of us in the West, when we think of Freedom, we relate to Freedom-From before we connect to Freedom-For which is a deep reflection of how, ultimately we relate to our existence.
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Tags: embodied wisdom, Freedom For, Freedom From, Indigenous culture, Relationship